Being the only male in my house, the burden of fixing household items is always put on me. I have never been considered a manly man–at least in my head–, so it helps me project my masculine side lol.
This weekend our garage door broke, so as you can guess, I tried my best to do it myself. In the end, I failed miserably. I am pretty sure I made the damage to the worse garage worse in the end. Instead of owning up to my failure to the demanding wife, I called a garage door service company. They fixed the door within literally 10 minutes. This all happened right after I had spent 4 hours of hard work failing miserably. Embarrassing, but thankfully none of the ladies noticed (;
In a weird way, society has shaped me to expect more out of myself than I think I am capable of. Not that I am stupid, but I just don’t find handyman activities intuitive. Which seems like a very feminine characteristic. Sure it is nice to have good expectations of you, but the pressure can be annoying. So much so that I felt the need to hide it from my family.
On the other hand, there are masculine activities that I do enjoy doing. That includes playing sports, drinking beer and watching professional competition. Half the time I like manly activities the other half I can’t stand them. I guess that makes me half man half woman. Caitlin Jenner anyone?
Ok enough with the jokes, I would never do something like that. But it is amazing how so many people have two sides to them that most would never notice. I hate even obfuscating basic expenses like overhead repair from the family, can’t imagine hiding the fact that I was a different sex entirely.
I am sure I am not the only one who deals with these expectations. And it surely is not unique to men, as surely women dealing with unrealistic standards as well. Overall, I found the whole situation kind of eye opening in a weird way. Hopefully, I will be able to leverage this into becoming a less judgemental and more open person overall. I’d like tho think I am doing a good job already, but that’s not for me to judge (pun intended). Anyway, thought I would share my little anecdote with you all today. Hope everyone has a good one!
Many of my closest colleagues I have met through my passion for bowling. And although they are great to be around, for some reason I don’t like playing with them. This feeling always has surprised me as I wasn’t too sure myself why I enjoyed individual play more. After allowing this reality to play in my subconscious for almost a decade, I think I have finally figured it out. I just wanted to delve in to three reason for this.
I just want to start out by saying that I enjoy playing the most when I am at my best. A simple concept that I am sure many of you can relate to. No one is having more fun than when they are on a road. But for some reason, I never had that feeling, or rarely got it when playing with a full team. I think this has to do with pressure. A part of me knows when playing alone that there is no one else to rely on but myself. If something goes wrong, it’s my fault and no one else. This seemingly unfortunate aspect of the sport is a primary factor in why I love it so much.
It’s a bit counter intuitive to my self-perception as well. I have never thought of myself to be good in pressure situations, but when I think more I feel this does apply in bowling.
I love being around my best friends and talking about bowling and whatever else is on our minds. That said, the reason bowling is so special is because of the escape it has brought me. When I am playing, I am not thinking about work, family, errands, or anything else. My mind is 100 percent focused on the game at hand. It is almost a meditation of sorts for me that allows me just to live in the moment. This is very important for someone like myself who stresses about the most minute details of life. And it is the main reason why even if I am not particularly feeling it a certain day; I force myself to go out and play anyway. Because I know how crucial it is for my mental health, and that once I am there, I will have a very good time.
Probably the least realization of the 3 I have had, this reason is a bit peculiar. Going to the local alley has a special feeling for me. When I was younger–and much more stress-free, I would go to this very same place to bowl. So now on returning I am constantly reminded of that feeling. The feeling of being young and worry less. Where life was good, and my biggest problems were finding out what food I would pick that night. This is also a big reason why it is so easy for me to escape in the game. It is almost as if I go back in time when I slip on those shoes.
What I learned
While it is unfortunate that I cannot enjoy both at the same time, I am glad to have such understanding friends. Having spoken to them about this, they do not take my preferences the wrong way. When I hang out with them, we talk about bowling constantly, but we do not play together in local leagues. My separation of church and state if you will.
These realizations have shown me just how special this trivial game is to my life and happiness. After my family it is the greatest single thing in my life, and for that I am very thankful.
Considering a large part of my blog will be revolved around bowling, I figured I would reminisce on the early days of my passion.
How it all started
My passion for bowling started around 2001 when I was just a wee lad. I had played before in my childhood, but only on special occasions or on a family night out. Even though my playing time during those times was on par with the rest of my colleagues and family, for some reason something about the game just came naturally to me. Being known as the awkward kid my whole life, this was very surprising to not only my peers but to me as well. Unsurprisingly, this made me want to go bowling every chance I got, although I never got to go as much as I would have liked. So when I finally obtained my first car at 17, the first thing I did was head down to the local bowling alley. Shortly afterward I became obsessed and have been consistently playing ever since. While I currently don’t get to play as much, due to work and the kids, I always try to head down at least once a week. I also keep up to date with a lot of the latest tournaments, equipment, and news revolving in the community. My hope is to share all this with you and provide some interesting content that will be useful to people with similar stories to my own.
While I love bowling, nothing is more important to me than my two beautiful daughters. They are a major part of my life, and like their dad, are great bowlers. I’ve chosen to keep specific details about my family secret for personal reasons. Hopefully, this will not detract from the content. As I stated earlier, most of my blog will remain focused around hobbies, but I will occasionally share some posts about my home, kids, and wife.
I also plan on keeping comments open on all future posts, so if someone wants to interact they can. All my goals for this blog are still not certain, but I am sure I will figure it out as I go. I have always wanted to create a something like this, so I thought why not start now. If someone miraculously finds this website, then I would be ecstatic. Either way, I will still continue to document my journey in life with or without a watchful eye or two. (: I might delve deeper into how I got started in bowling, but for now I figured this brief introduction would suffice. Also, I am also very new to hosting and running a website. So if you have any design tips, or know of any useful features I could add, please let me know. I am in no way an expert on most of these things and don’t mind being told I suck at something. Thanks again for anyone out there reading this post. Hope you all enjoy your Monday evening. Goodbye for now.
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